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It’s Just A Phase

Oftentimes I’ve been told that I victimise myself, that I overthink, overdo, overreact- that these behavioural tendencies can change, that they’re only temporary, if only I changed myself. 


I’d always felt that I viewed people differently, empathised more, felt strongly, gave and stood by more fiercely as compared to what I’d ever received. And that made me question the base, the authenticity, the very existence of all my relations. 


Until I realised why I was different. Why I felt so overwhelmed at everything that happened around me, every little trigger that came my way. Also why I’d feel so strongly for my people and my causes. And sometimes it got so much that I’ve had to find ways to release the pain. I found out I am an HSP- Highly Sensitive Person. What that means is I feel all forms of stimuli with more intensity than about 80-85% of people. That I’m constantly absorbing every emotion, reaction, smell, touch and noise and that overwhelms me. Other people’s loud reactions and the minutest mood swings affect me. And I’d always feel so alone in this ordeal because everytime I tried to explain this, no one would understand. I’d be called over emotional or weak. And that in turn brought in bouts of depression and a never ending chaos of anxiety. 


As much as I speak on social media, I find it difficult to address this with family or friends. And maybe that’s because I’m sick of hearing that it’s just another phase. I’m sick of people saying they understand me one minute and being insensitive the next. 


So I’ve tried and I try to deal with it in my own way- writing, singing, crying, releasing. But I try. As much as I want to give up at times, I promise myself 5 more minutes of sanity, and I try. And it helps. I’d urge you to do the same. Keep pushing yourself because no one else will fight for your life like you will. 

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🖤

Today has been memorable in more ways than one. I went from dealing with anxiety in the morning to something that’s a milestone in my life. And even though I currently feel the anxiety lurking within me, the euphoria is just so much stronger. And even with how hopeless and helpless I’ve felt lately, I know I’ll be okay. More than okay. Which is why, if you’re reading this- don’t give up. Don’t give up on yourself. Your happiness and your life is the only thing worth fighting for. Much love to everyone who’s read till the end. 🖤

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Breaking Mental Barriers With White On White

Top- Koovs, Jeans- Vero Moda, Pumps- Lulu&Sky, Jewellery- The Populor

Let me start at the beginning of 6th April, 2019.

I knew where I had to shoot for the day and I knew I wanted to wear something refreshing- something that wasn’t all black as was usual to me because I had felt a shift in me.

I first tried on the crop top with a skirt and felt it was just so regular- it stirred nothing within me. And then I thought of pairing it with these jeans. Now, I knew they were mid rise and that a significant part of my tummy (that I always kept covered despite having dared to show my midriff sometimes) would show. But I fell in love with how this looked on me and knew I had to capture this. So I finished this look with my stilettos, statement earrings and a cuff.

Armed with Priti (who is my partner at The Populor and always a support since I’ve always felt so comfortable with her behind the lens) and some confidence, I headed to shoot.

We clicked some lovely pictures on the 1st floor of the location, but as I stepped down the stairs to the lower level, the female behind the counter gave me a glance and looked away, clearly uncomfortable.

For a split second, it did make me want to pull my top a little lower to cover my waist. But I decided against it. Because you see, I had broken such a huge barrier in my head about a norm for plus size women that I didn’t want to go back. I had felt beautiful and gorgeous and fabulous while clicking these pictures and I fell so much more in love with my skin than ever before.

But above all, I realised how much stronger this little step had made me. I don’t blame that lady, she was clearly taken by surprise because while it is absolutely normal for plus size ladies to wear tummy revealing sarees, it’s very preposterous for a woman to do the same in a “western outfit”, isn’t it?

Well, that was the moment when I vowed to not let myself feel that way again. Nor should you. Every time I’ve faced a barrier, I’ve used it as a beacon to give me direction on what to break next. That is how I lift myself higher. I hope this helps you. The next time you want to pull out a crop top, don’t think twice. Wear it. Own it.

Until next time.

Love,

Dimple xx

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Hurt Breeds Hurt but Love Nurtures Love

Hello my lovelies!

It’s been a while, but heads up- this is probably going to sound like a long rant. But I promise, it has been long coming and is much needed.

I’m a part of a club that meets once a week. On Sunday, one of the members on the stage was correcting another member and said she had “an Alia Bhatt moment”*. About a 100 people laughed and all I could do was fume at their willingness to make light of someone’s mistake. Especially since I know for a fact that he wouldn’t have the answers to every single question under the sun. I mean, its okay to make a mistake. But imagine being a household joke even 6 years later!! It’s preposterous! And it isn’t about just her, I could state a hundred examples from how often I’ve seen this in my day to day life. And I’m sure you have too.

Which brings me to an important question. Why are we okay with putting someone down for our amusement? Why is it okay to give ourselves temporary happiness at the expense of someone else?

Upon delving deep into this and observing the people around, I’ve come to the conclusion that for most times, only someone who isn’t whole within themselves would be okay with feeling better about themselves by putting someone else down. Only someone who doesn’t love themselves would want to hurt someone else because let’s face it- hurt breeds hurt. And I get it, but it’s so unhealthy in the long run for you more than anyone else.

And of course Alia wasn’t present at the meeting, but is that a habit you want to inculcate within you? Is that the kind of person you want to be? Because I swear, this isn’t a one time thing. Once you get a taste for this, you’re going to quickly move from celebrities to neighbours and then to your dear ones. And you will end up hurting them. So the next time you catch yourself in the act, I implore you to ask yourself why. Because if you introspect, you will find a part of you that needs healing.

Heal it. Watch what you speak. Love and respect people and I swear it will come back tenfold. Because if hurt breeds hurt, then love nurtures love. For sure.

I love you guys

-Dimple.

*For those of you who don’t know the moment he was referring to, it was when Alia Bhatt named the wrong person as the President of India at her Koffee with Karan debut episode back in 2013

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Naked

Hey y’all!

If you’ve been following my Instagram, you’ll have read my post on how I’ve been subconsciously trying to write about mental health and where I stand today with it.

Each of us go through phases. Some good, some bad. But who we are is a reflection of what we’ve learnt and implemented. I was someone who had become emotionally unavailable to people due to past experiences. I’d hold up and harbour feelings because I thought expressing them would either be weak or unnecessary. And what that did, was let so much space for negativity to hole up within me that I got into a vicious cycle of holding onto the littlest of things, and that made me bitter- only I didn’t realise.

A few months ago, I sat to evaluate what was going on with me. And the moment I realised this, I knew I had to change, to release and let go. I also knew that if someone indeed did matter to me, it was important to be vulnerable around them and express. It was okay to speak my heart. I would either gain a better relationship or know that it had to be let go of. It’s still difficult for me, but through conscious efforts, I have made progress. 

Little did I know, this little (major) step changed so much for me. By being vulnerable time and again with the right people (and some wrong), I kind of got over the fear of it. It strengthened some relations and gave me direction to take action on some relations. I also began to be vulnerable within myself. 

I began to accept things instead of making excuses. I could now detach myself from situations and look at them with an outsiders point of view, which lead to better decisions. Isn’t it strange, how one little step could change so many things? Add so much more value to my life? Release negativity and let me breathe in love?

Honestly, I feel every single time I’ve felt my self-love is at its peak, the mountain gets higher. And I love it so goddamn much- that euphoria after the struggle, the contentment after the hustle.

I urge you, reflect within yourself. Find what’s holding you back and change it. One little conscious step could domino all your problems down. Be naked with yourself.

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Much love to you guys!

Dimple xx

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Festive Wear ft.aLL

Hello and welcome to my very first blogpost featuring Indian festive wear!!!

For the past two years, I’ve refrained from writing about festive outfits because to be honest, even though I looooove dressing up in them (what with the elaborate makeup and jewellery-also, can go all bling without being judged) I hate how heavy and uncomfortable they get if worn for longer than a couple of hours. But there’s just something about these outfits that makes you feel pretty and delicate, brings out the grace in tomboys and of course, ALWAYS brings compliments.

Since the wedding/festive season is here, I couldn’t help myself this year. I’m not sure if it’s this pretty outfit that’s comfortable or my newfound desire to bring almost every thought inside my head to life, but here it is!

The outfit I’m wearing here is a 3 piece. Leggings, an anarkali and a jacket on top. Of course, this is a day wear and I would probably wear it for every function except an actual wedding (because c’mon, that calls for a lot of bling!) The fabric allowed me to breathe and I just couldn’t stop twirling. Clothes that make me happy are the best!

It was pretty easy to style this one because the outfit speaks for itself. Some gold earrings, my mother’s gold bangle, a pair of golden wedges, a tong to curl my hair and a truckload of makeup was all I needed to finish the look.

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Outfit by aLL. You can click here to buy this outfit. Also, if you use my referral code DIMP300, you’ll receive discounts. (these are not affiliate links)

A new post will be up later this week.

Until then,

Love, Dimple. xoxo

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3 ways to style a basic tee

Total disclaimer: I’m not basic. I don’t do basics.

But I LOVE to play with basics and amp them up. This t-shirt was one such. When I saw it online, I really liked the rad print. What aided my decision was the fact that 10% of the proceeds go towards The Dharavi Project. But when I received the t-shirt, I instantly fell in love with the comfort it provided.

Back to how I love to amp my basics up, I decided to style this one in 3 ways for y’all. Let’s have a look at them.

 

1.) A mid-calf gathered skirt.

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Since the print is in red, I decided to go for a red plaid gathered skirt. I’ve knotted the top up at my natural waist since the length of the skirt is long enough to permit it. But you can also tuck it in if you wish to. Since this look is super casual, I went for my black statement ballerinas. A bronze watch to complement the reds in the clothes completed my look.

 

2) A high waist pencil skirt

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Since I’m an hourglass, I love anything that shows off my curves. I chose a deep olive green pencil skirt to pair with my tee so the red print would stand out. Since the skirt was a high waist and just under my knees, I decided to tuck my t-shirt in. A pair of blingy pumps and a rose gold watch later, I was done.

 

3) Ripped Jeans

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This one’s a no brainer. A basic tee with ripped or distressed jeans can never go wrong. But I really like to amp things up. So I took my really worn pair of denims, wore my fishnet stockings inside and paired the whole look with my red booties to complement the red print. A black leather watch and silver cuff completed this look.

 

There are a hundred ways in which you can style a basic tee. These are 3 of my go-to ones. If I had to pick a favourite though, it would be the one with the olive skirt (curves and all). Which one is your favourite out of these? How would you style them?

Check their collection out here.

Until next time,

Love, Dimple. xoxo

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Pantone Series: Poppy Red

Hey you guys!

I know last week was my 1st post in months and I kinda almost tanked on my resolutions for this year. But I’m back now, for good.

You see, sometimes you go through situations and you let people and circumstances define you. And that’s alright, because most times the only way out is through. I’ve hurt and burned, combusted and risen. Because I realised something very important. Infact, I wrote it down early this evening as a revelation.

And I quote – Don’t let people or situations make you feel bereft. Remember, you are your own home. You were standing before they came and you will still be standing long after they leave.

With my fall pantone series (I will only wear colours that are best suited to my skin tone, duh!), I couldn’t begin with a colour more suited to the chaos within me. You see, the Poppy Red is bright. But it symbolises so much more. Love and Hate. Strength and Sensitivity. Romance and Wrath. Courage and Malice. Passion and Danger. Desire and Anger. Sexuality and Stress. Joy and Rage. So many paradoxes and most of them living within each of us. I’ve faced them on the regular. But above all, it represents fire. Hot raging destructive flames, but also flames that aid the re-birth of a phoenix.

I hope you’ll enjoy the pictures below. Do let me know what this colour stands for for you and if you’d want me to style a specific colour.

All the jewellery is by The Populor. Can’t wait to share more of that news later. Soon.

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Much love,

Dimple xoxo

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Vampire Facial ft. Clinic Metamorphosis

Let me begin by stating that I’m not someone who blindly follows influencer trends. But ever since I saw Kim Kardashian’s blood smeared face, I wondered why she would do that. Further research brought me to the PRP (Platelet-Rich Plasma) treatment, infamously known as the Vampire facial.

It was a little difficult to digest the benefits that protein from our own blood could deliver. I’ll state a few here and then dive into the process and what I feel about it. The most well known benefits are anti-ageing (reduction of fine lines and wrinkles), reduction in pigments, reduction in scars, pore minimisation and hydration.

Trying to find a vein to take about 5ml of blood

When I realised they’d probably take blood from my vein on the hand instead of arm

Thankfully she only took it from my arm. Good doctor.

Centrifuged my blood in this machine where the red blood cells were separated from the plasma.

Meanwhile, my skin was cleared and an anaesthetic cream was applied and then infused with the help of plastic sheets for about 30 minutes till my skin got numb.

The next step involves a pen with a few needles. It’s called micro-blading. These needles are tiny enough so they only pierce the superficial layers of skin.

The procedure begins with the yellow PRP liquid in the injection being sprayed on the skin, the pen being rubbed over your skin to open it up and then the PRP being massaged into it.

The process was painfree apart from some sensitive areas, where it kind of felt like getting a tattoo, but took only a few seconds. But after the anaesthesia wore off, my skin was on fire!

The post care is pretty simple: anti-biotic ointment for the next 3 nights and regular use of moisturiser and sunscreen (which you must do anyway if you want a healthy skin).

About 3 days later, my skin was still healing. There were red patches and my skin was sensitive in certain areas.

But it’s been about 15 days since, and I love the change. It’s visible with even my makeup on because the texture is so much better.

I remember the first thing my friend who was kind enough to sit through the whole procedure with me said to me. My face was red and blotchy and I probably looked like a really mad Hagrid. But she said my skin looked tighter. And she was right. Not only did my skin get tighter, it got fuller and healthier. Pigmentation and scars had reduced significantly and the 2 pores I loathed had become so much smaller. Besides, my skin is so hydrated.

A lot of people have asked me why I would go to the length of taking blood out and poking needles in my face. I believe strongly in modern technology and its boons. I’d rather keep up and soak all that it has to offer than sit back and hope I had it in me to risk. But of course, I trust Clinic Metamorphosis. I wouldn’t have gotten this done anywhere else. I’ve been to their clinic a few times before and they’re the most positive clinic I’ve received a treatment at.

You can get in touch with them here and avail a 15% discount across all categories with my referral code INFORSTYLE15.

Until next time.

Much love,

Dimple xx

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Knot it up!

Hey y’all!

If you’ve been following me since the beginning, you know how I like to play around by wearing the same piece of clothing in different ways. If you haven’t been following me for long, now you know.

So, for this post, I have a top that I’ve already posted up here. I recently went to my brother’s birthday dinner and tied it up over a pencil skirt. It gave such a beautiful structure to my outfit, that I had to post it up here!

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All I’ve done, is take a long knit kurta and tie up the front and back as a knot at the side of my waist. I’ve paired it with a flared skirt for this look. But you can check out how I paired it with the pencil skirt here. Since there were sliver specs on the top, I chose to go minimal and silver with my accessories. I used my silver pendant, gunmetal choker, watch, cuff and a statement ring to go with the outfit. I ended the look with basic silver ankle straps.

I feel this style just hugs my curves at the right places making the look so chic yet a little sexy.

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I kept my makeup in the blush tones and was set to go! You can also pair this knotted style of top with palazzos or distressed denims depending on your mood or the occasion.

So go ahead girls! Give it a shot and let me know how you like it.

Until next time, xoxo.

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My Vision For 2018

Happy 2018, y’all!

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New year brings new beginnings, right? Some would differ here. And rightly so. Same old house, same old car, same old job, same old friends and same old you, right? Wrong. If you want to live with the same old you, you’ll only be stagnant there till you’re rudely awakened by life from your stupor.

Beginning your year, or just beginning anything in general with set goals means you challenge yourself. And when you challenge yourself, you win or you learn. Either way, you have much more experience than if you had remained stagnant. If there’s one thing I loathe, it is being mediocre. And that means I have to constantly challenge myself. I don’t want to be a dinosaur in a constantly changing world where there are so many people bettering themselves each day! And hence, here I am in 2018. Not with a bucket list, but with a list of goals. 5 of which I am sharing here with you guys.

L I S T   O F   G O A L S :

1)  Get better- I know this sounds extremely off the top and not in the least specific. But thats exactly what this is. I want to review each thing I used to do and figure a way to do it in a better way. That means research more, work harder and prioritise, organise and manage better.

2) Work on my physique- It is no secret that I love being a plus size. If a genie were to appear miraculously offering to make me thin, I would refuse. But I do want to work hard on becoming fit as a human. My body deserves it. I have said this before and I’ll say it again, if being a plus size is your choice, so be it. But don’t let that be an excuse to neglect your health.

3) Add value- 2017 was my best year so far. I have received so much love and appreciation from you guys. I’ve made so many friends over the internet. I’ve had the pleasure of knowing a few other beautiful body positive women. I’ve met women that have encouraged and pushed me and I’ve done the same in return. This year, I want to add value to all your lives. I want to create and post content that makes you question yourself, motivates you to take the steps required and inspires you to change things you’ve wanted to. This year is about how I can help you!

4) Purpose- Whenever I have taken a big step in my life, like beginning my blog, joining a club or making decisions, I’ve made sure they’re backed by a purpose. It helps me focus. Staying true to my purpose means my result will remain the same while I am at liberty to be flexible with my approach/approaches depending on the situation. And that has worked brilliantly so far. 2018 is about reinforcing that within me.

5) Create a community for mental health awareness- Around the time I began my blog, I was under depression. For those of who you don’t know, I was so deep under, I got suicidal. I am now out of it but I still have days and sometimes weeks when I dip back under. I always come back out. But I know how it feels. And I know that it is very difficult to find someone who can understand you. So, I want to create an environment where people with a similar state of mind can come together and help each other grow. More details about this will be up soon.

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All of this spread over a span of around 360 days is definitely achievable! Above all of this, I want to express myself as and when I want. I want to be more confident this year, be bolder. I want to love better and give more. I want to shine brighter and be more glam than I was last year. Above all, what I don’t want is what we have to end. I love you guys and you have no idea how big a role you’ll have played in shaping me up as a person in 2017.

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If you want a successful year ahead and haven’t set goals, now is the time. I urge you to do so. There’s nothing better than the pressure of a ticking clock to get you running towards your goal. Let’s review our goals at the end of 2018!

Here’s to achievements this year!

Until next time, xoxo.

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Highlights of 2017

 

2017!! You have been a beautiful melancholy!

No year has tested me as much as you have. No year has been as much of an emotional roller coaster as you have. You made me realise how much strength and patience I have within me. You taught me to love myself and value myself. You showed me the power of taking reigns of my life into my own hands. You have been a beauty! We have achieved so much together and I will forever be grateful for a fabulous and fulfilling year like you.

Thank you for the times you were kind and thank you for the times you weren’t. I have emerged stronger.

Adios!

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