As a plus-sized woman, one of the main concerns I had with dressing was the prominent tummy bulge with certain outfits.
And while I now know that it is absolutely okay to have that and I do not want to condemn myself, there are ways in which you can dress to flatter your body shape. One of them is to wear a mid-waist trouser or denim to tuck the top in.
If you notice, my tunic with high slits has been tucked in at the front. Now, had I worn high-waist trousers, my entire belly would have been visible due to the fit of the trouser. Instead, with a mid-waist trouser, it has been broken into two parts. Tucking the tunic at the front has also given the outfit a dimension as opposed to how plain it could look otherwise. I kept the colours in the same family as they would look much better together. Since the tunic had a deep v-neck, I used a choker. A couple of rings and these cinderella pumps later, I was done.
Top: Only, Trousers: Khodal, Choker: Lifestyle Stores, Statement ring: Avrom, Other Rings: Forever21, Shoes: Lulu&Sky
Do send me pictures when you try this out. I would love to see them.
Until next time! xoxo
Dress: Forever21, Leather Jacket: Self Designed, Belt: Vero Moda,
Kickass Power-Ring: Avrom Jewels, Heels: Lulu&Sky
A belated Happy Halloween, y’all!
I’ve been meaning to write this post for quite a few days now, but this one’s a little difficult for me. Never the less, I really do want to share this with you guys. And here it is!
Halloween is a celebration of the dead, for the dead. “It originated with the ancient Celtic festival of Samhain, when people would light bonfires and wear costumes to ward off ghosts”, says Google.
When I met my make-up artist -who’s fabulous, by the way (you can check her work out here)- we spoke about a couple of ideas and I told her I really wanted to do something that channeled my inner Goddess. The first two words she uttered fit right in for me. She said ‘Warrior Princess’. And that is just so true for me, since I’ve always viewed myself as one.
You see, up until a year back, I was depressed. I suffered from insomnia and constantly battled with myself for my life because every fibre within me wanted me to take my life. Even a simple task such as cooking instant noodles was proving to be extremely difficult because the mere sight of the scissor that I used to cut the packet open ignited a desire to slit my wrist open. And people kept telling me I was doing nothing with my life since all I did was read or watch series/movies online all day. But little did they know, that numb state was what kept me going. I kept feeling I was the only one, and I kept feeling no one would understand. So I didn’t tell anyone, up until a point when I realised I needed help.
So I told a friend, then another. They said they understood, that they were there for me, and I felt better. I then told some more people, who seemed to understand, but only momentarily. And then even the friends who said they understood turned against me. That’s when I hit the rock bottom. And I decided that night that I would never tell anyone again. I also decided that I would grow from that state no matter what. If it was my mind that kept me so sad, only my mind could make me happy. So I took conscious efforts. I focused on helping myself. And to be very honest, this blog helped too.
I fought for myself, and I emerged as a victor. That is why the warrior princess resonated with me. My depression is the only ghost I know I will fight again and again because it temporarily resurfaces now and then. But I know for a fact, that I will get through. No matter what.
If you’re reading this and you know what I’m talking about, if you feel you’re the only one going through this endless state, you’re not. Yes, your experience and reasons are unique and only yours, but I bet you you’re not alone. In this feeling of helplessness, this state where you cry and bawl your eyes out for no reason, you’re not alone. If you’ve been battling for your life and seem to be losing it, get help. I’m a hundred percent sure you know if you’re depressed. Don’t let anyone, and I mean anyone tell you it’s just a phase and it will pass. Because it won’t. If you accept that, it will stay. You must fight it. And I promise you the fight is worth it. I am here after all, right?
If any of y’all ever want to speak about your state with me, you can write to me at firstname.lastname@example.org. I swear, it will remain between us.
Thank you for contributing hugely to my life.
Until next time, xoxo.
While studying fashion, I read an article that busted a few fashion no-nos. One of them was Denim on Denim. I can’t even imagine a time where it was a fashion no-no. I absolutely love denims and I have quite a few pieces that are all convenient to style when I’m running short of time. Paring an entire denim look is just so effortlessly stylish!
I wanted to take my look up a notch for y’all. Hence, the denim on denim on denim look!
I really wanted to experiment with how 3 denim pieces (barring a jacket) looked together and was so pleased with the outcome that I had to share it with you guys!
I wore a pair of blue denims, and added a long denim kurta (which I had worn previously here). I then chose an embellished denim shirt to top the look. As you all know, I love knotting my shirts up and hence I left a few buttons undone at the bottom and tied a knot where my natural waist is. I just made sure that there was a shade variation between all my denim pieces. Since I wanted the focus to be on the denim pieces and the shirt was already adorned, I decided to keep the accessories to a minimum. I wore my nude heels, put on a statement ring, my Daniel Wellington Classic Petite Sterling watch and cuff, and I was set to go.
I hope you guys enjoyed this look.
If you have any suggestions or requests for any look, do let me know!
Until next time. xoxo
P.S.: I got a new haircut!
I know its been awfully long since my last blogpost. But I am back now and I’ve been working on something that you’ll will know in the next week or so. I’m super excited!
Coming on to this post now.
Have you ever owned a piece of clothing that was just lying in your wardrobe forever and you always wore it in the same boring way? Yeah. This top was that for me. And I realised when I recently looked at it (with my year old newfound sense of style) that there are definitely a couple of ways I could wear it differently. Take a look.
This is the top. And I always wore it with leggings or high waist jeans. But given my body shape, I realised it just looked bleh. It is safe to assume, that looking bleh was the reason it was in hiding for so long. I have always stood by my belief that a right fit can change the game. So I decided to create structure using two techniques as follows:
- Belt it upLeggings: Khodal, Earrings: Koovs, Belt: Vero Moda
Belting a lose top at the right spot is always a great idea to add structure to any outfit. And for a curvy woman, the right spot is ALWAYS the narrowest part of your waist.
Since the top was one solid colour, I decided to play with a little print and hence I used printed leggings in the same colour family. To break the monotony of the blues, I added a slim brown belt with gold detailing to match the buttons in the top. And because I had already played around so much, I paired this look with nude heels. A brown watch to match the belt and gold hoop earrings later, I was done!
- Knot it up I opened the last 2 buttons of the top and tied the ends together, pulling them till they reached my natural waist in height.
Skirt: Forever21, Necklace: Zara, Watch: Fossil, Heels: Catwalk
Because the flow of the top had reduced drastically after tying the ends into a knot at the front, I chose to pair this top with a tight-fitted black knee length skirt. I opened the topmost button and put on a statement necklace to enhance the dressy vibe of the outfit. I then paired the look with bronze metallic heels to add a little more oomph and wore a bronze watch to complete the look.
These are two easy and simple ways to style any loose fitting asymmetric top irrespective of your size and shape. Both these tricks will work as effectively on you as they did on me.
Hope you enjoyed reading this. Please do let me know which look you like better in the comments below.
Until next time! xoxo
Whenever I post my pictures with my brother(which is quite often and they’re usually supported by cheesy captions), my friends tell me they could never have a relationship like ours. In fact, a lot of people have told us this.
Let me tell you, up until we were kids, we couldn’t see eye to eye. As we grew up, our bond kept growing stronger till it became impenetrable. This didn’t happen overnight. We made conscious efforts towards this(with a lot of guidance from Dad).
So, if you wish you’d have such an amazing bond with your sibling too, here are 7 ways that will surely yield results:-
1: Have A Heart To Heart
This HAS to be the first step. It is imperative that you know if you’ll are on the same page. A lot of times, people assume things about each other and don’t bother clarifying because they feel their assumptions are right. But that usually is not the case. Having a heart to heart will not only mean you’re clearing any hidden hurt from the past, it will also make you realise where to be careful in the future. Speaking about everything you and your sibling are holding in, will make it easier to let go. Repeat this from time to time.
2: Acknowledge Your Differences
This is a step that is essential for any relationship to survive. My brother and I are both extremely strong personalities and sometimes we do come head-on, but we’re both aware of who the other person is and that makes it easier to handle a situation. For example, We’re both workaholics. But where he likes to work under a serious mood all the time, I need my music. Where he prefers delegating, I end up taking more on my plate than I should be handling. But we are well aware of our differences and that helps us understand each other better.
3: Bond Over The Similarities
It is impossible that you would have zero similarities with your sibling. My brother and I bond over a lot of mutual likings- cars, fine living, work and each other. By some weird luck, if you don’t have any similarities, develop them like I did with this one- my brother loves watching WWE. Years ago(when I was in Junior College) I used to cringe at the sight of violence, but I started watching this with him and we’d then have long discussions over the matches. It has been years, but we still wake up early every year to watch Wrestlemania together.
I’m sure you’ve heard of this and think this is pretty self-explanatory. But this is easier said than done. Everyone is understanding up until the point you’re actually in need. You know your sibling loves you. That means, just like I’m sure your intent is, their intent too is of your best interest when they give you an advice you don’t like or state an opinion that’s hard to digest. Under these circumstances, you must consider their intent before drawing up conclusions.
Again, this is easier said than done. We’ve established that you both have pure intentions towards each other. But, these can be the cause of meddling too. You have to trust your sibling enough to make their decisions and learn from them(unless they’re considering murder, of course). Space is essential for growth. Hence, trust your sibling, give them the space they deserve and need and watch your relationship flourish.
6: Spend Quality Time
The most difficult thing to do today is to keep your phone away. Especially when you’re in your comfort zone with someone as special as your sibling. But, because your sibling is so special, doesn’t he/she deserve more attention? Set a side a couple of hours each week and spend time together. Joke about things, talk about your dreams and discuss real-life situations. Trust me, nothing connects anyone better than a genuine conversation. (Throw in a few hugs. I tend to hug him till he gets frustrated)
7: Value Them- And Show It
It is truly said that the ones closest to us are often taken for-granted. Which is the worst thing to do. Sure, I assume (and rightly so) that he’s going to be there for me through my highs and lows. But, I make it a point for him and everyone I love to know how much they mean to me on a regular basis. I like writing, so I express through words and sometimes letters. He’s not one to say it, but he expresses it through gestures. When he comes to pick me up, the car often has balloons (oh, how I love them!) inside. Establish a way, but let them know how much they mean to you on the regular.
At the end though, it always boils down to how badly you want it and how much you’re willing to work for it because just step 1 could take you weeks depending on where you’ll stand at the time of beginning.
Do let me know if you find this helpful and if you have a sibling relation that’s as special as mine, I would love to hear all about it!!
Until next time, xoxo.
What is freedom? Someone I knew was once asked this question and that got me thinking. Of course, the perception of freedom is subjective. But freedom to me is being able to set your own boundaries. Freedom to me is being able to claim your space and spread your wings as far as you can. Freedom to me is being able to learn from your mistakes rather than being forced to imagine conflicts.
I met this guy, Deepen Sharma when I was in college. I was instantly mesmerised by his charisma and the confidence with which he carried himself. So, years later, when I wanted to write about freedom and create a concept that had its own wings, he was the first person I thought of. And boy, was I glad I did. This shoot was a whirlwind.
We’re both distinct strong personalities. We’re both confident in our skin. Which is why we’re able to rock our looks all the time. We’ve both developed it over time. What I mean to say is, loving yourself is something that needs to be developed in most people. It is a conscious effort. You must look at yourself positively and cut all negativity out- because you don’t deserve that shit. And when you find someone that pushes you forward just as much as you push them (these are most often angels disguised as friends), stick to them. There’s nothing like reminiscing over the stories of growing together.
Love yourself, value yourself. And I swear, no one can put you down. Ever. Not without your permission at least.
Love you Dee!
P.S: Would love to know what you guys want to see next!
P.P.S: This candid is everything.
Makeup by Simmy Goraya
Photographer Shawn Vaz
Location: Queens Kitchen & Mocktails
Until next time, xoxo.
Dress: LASTINCH, Sunglasses: Forever21, Earrings: Pantaloons
This dress had me hooked the moment I laid eyes on it. I was browsing through the collections of an online plus size fashion clothing brand LASTINCH when I saw this dress (which is on sale at the moment) and I HAD to get it even though florals are not usually my style. But you know what they say (they meaning I), go for what your heart calls out to. When this dress arrived, I was surprised at the good quality and feel of the fabric. And when I tried it out, it fit me just right!
I had also recently taken a liking to these pink reflector sunglasses and I just knew in my gut that I had to pair the two together. Hence, to balance the print and reflectors, I decided to keep the heels nude. For my accessories, I chose a simple pair of hoop earrings to complete this look.
Let me know how you like this look or how you would style it!
Until next time, xoxo!
Being happy and carefree. Loving yourself for who you are. Letting go of your inhibitions. Setting yourself free. Being positive. Attracting your desired life. Standing tall. Empowering and inspiring yourself and then others. Building up and growing together.
Few things are essential for your survival. For a sane and healthy mind. How you look at them defines your very being. And how you live them decides your mental health in the long run. A lot of you may not know, but sometime back, I was depressed. I kept looking for validation and happiness everywhere but within. I felt a void in me that I thought only something external could fill. But it obviously didn’t despite all my efforts. My will to move past the depression made me introspect on my thought patterns. On how I was affecting myself and I only had myself to blame for that. And that was a good thing, since it was only I that could rectify.
Ever since I made up my mind, I have the best relationship with myself. All of those things I’ve mentioned above, are an essential part of me today. This amazing friend of mine, Pooja Shah who I’ve known for over 8 years now had the exact same mindset. We have varied physiques but she’s the sunshine to my intensity. We wanted to catch our differences and our similarities in these pictures and I’m elated that we did!
Until next time, xoxo.
P.S: Check the man who did a brilliant job at capturing us and our vibes Parth Gada.
P.P.S: We’ve crossed 10K on Instagram!! Thank you for your constant love and support.
Dress: XXLLENT, Earrings&Ring: Avrom Jewels
White is such a fresh colour, isn’t it? And while it has its own beauty, it is difficult to amp up a dress that is plain white. So, how do you do it? Let me take you through how I styled this look.
I picked this white dress from here. I like this brand as it is one of the few plus size only brands that keep design aesthetics in mind. I loved the lace-up neckline detailing. To accentuate my body type, I added a slim belt which was neutral in colour but had gold detailing. This made the dress look flowy and added structure to my look. I chose to pair the outfit with pumps the same colour as the belt as I wanted to add a pop of colour while accessorising it. I used the very ‘in’ tassel earrings. What I like the most about these earrings is that pop of bright pink with a marble finish. They were a love at first sight. I chose a white ring with similar detailing as the earrings. You can check out their collection here. I left my hair loose, applied a deep berry shade on my lips and was set for a day full of compliments.
Easy-peasy. You can try it too!
Until next time, xoxo.
Let me be honest with y’all. Am I a fan of quirk? No! But this t-shirt? Hell yeah!
I am big on being comfortable irrespective of the occasion. Because comfort exudes confidence. This particular t-shirt is another level of comfort. The fabric is soft and feels extremely light. The overall vibe is very comfy. I fell in love with this print and the navy blue colour instantly. You can find more quirky products like this t-shirt at PrintOctopus. The one I’m wearing is Hanjee Hello T-shirt. Go check it out!
But, since overtly casual is not my style, I decided to amp it up (obviously).
I have a thing for tying knots at my natural waist. And I obviously did not waste the opportunity. Because I wanted to amp it up, I decided to pair it with these front high-slit pants and fishnet stockings under. To make the vibe a little more street style, I made sure the stockings were visible at my midriff under my knotted t-shirt. And y’all know how I love my boots! I had to pair them up with this look. Since I wanted to still keep the look a little casual, the statement ring was my only accessory. You can also wear long hoop earrings along if you want.
I hope you guys like how I styled this look.
It always angered me when I saw plus size women wear only kurtas or salwars because they thought they couldn’t wear something form-fitting. Now, I don’t have anything against any type of dressing-especially Indian (gotta love those ethnic looks). But, I do have a lot against not being able to do what you want to because of a mental trap. Honestly, well fitted clothes are not only extremely presentable and good looking, but also add a lot of confidence to the way you carry yourself.
For very long, I blamed this attitude on brands not delivering to sizes above certain measurements. Hence, I was very happy to discover XXLLENT that not only caters specifically to plus sizes, but also has designs that flatter the curves. I was super-excited when I received this dress from them. It is so modest, yet has the right amount of sexiness to it. You can shop this dress from here and check their website out here.
P.S: This cute little poser kept entering the frame time and again
Hope you enjoyed this post. Until next time. Much love. xoxo